Couples Therapy San Anselmo, CA
Finding reconnection after the disconnect.
Therapy for Couples in San Anselmo
You used to feel close to your partner. But now, you’re feeling unsupported and alone, vilified and blamed. Sometimes it might seem like the two of you don’t even recall events in the same way, which makes it feel impossible to find common ground. Under pressure at work, and always getting the kids what they need, you’re at the end of your rope. Nothing’s working like you imagined it would, and underneath it all, you want to feel loved and desired. I get it.
Sometimes, the pressure of juggling career, parenting and the hustle and bustle of living in Marin takes its toll on your intimate relationship. Faced with so many demands, you and your partner might need a place to focus on just your relationship – the vulnerabilities, desires, and longings which need a space to be heard and understood. Those very sparks which drew you and your partner together need to be rediscovered and fed.
In my San Anselmo office (or online), I teach couples to express themselves constructively and to listen deeply. I suss out repetitive relational patterns in your current relationship, help you see their source in your families of origin, and open a space for mutual empathy, compassion and understanding. It’s this space that offers a possibility for something new to emerge based on your needs and desires.
As a California Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, I have more than twenty years of experience counseling couples, and my own lived experience in a multi-decade committed relationship. Couples who work with me say learn how to hear what their partner is saying “underneath” their words, and to communicate constructively, leading to an increase in intimacy, feeling understood and connected. They learn to slow down and notice what is happening between them and within them, allowing them to embrace and explore the healthy and vibrant aspects of what is growing in this new space in the relationship.
I think committed relationships are actually kind of punk rock.
They’re hard. They show us parts of ourselves we may rather forget. But they offer an opportunity for one of the most concentrated doses of personal transformation out there. While you’ll have to do a lot yourself in true punk DIY fashion, I’ll be there to help and support.
I welcome couples of all sexual and gender orientations.
I’d love to speak with you about how to grow your relationship. Click here to email me, or call me by clicking the button below. Take care, and I look forward to connecting.
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Adult Psychotherapy
Young Women
Consultation & Supervision
In-person and remote options
My office is conveniently located in San Anselmo, CA. I also offer teletherapy.
Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Therapy in San Anselmo, CA
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Couples come for all sorts of reasons, including: improving communication; healing from breaches of trust, and to resolve recurring conflicts, to name a few.
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We will begin with a phone or video consultation with each partner. If we move forward from there, we will meet all together for our initial session, where we will get to know each other better, and I will begin to learn your story. Sometimes, it feels right to meet with each partner individually for one or more sessions. We will explore this together and land on what feels best.
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I prefer to meet in-person, as I find that the work is more impactful and immediate in that setting. However, that is not always possible, and so I do offer online sessions. At minimum, I like to meet at least once in person, so we can really get a feel for each other before moving online.
